The Sweetest Victory

I wrote this essay on the topic “Success is counted sweetest by those who never succeed.” I think it is fairly appropriate to share it today as a response to today’s Daily Prompt.

If you want to know what it’s like to win ask the one who lost. The idea of victory is sweeter to those who lose than it is in reality to those who win. I think it says that those who don’t succeed imagine that it taste sweeter then it does for those who succeed and do taste it. Lack of success, is what makes the actual success so sweet. This is the opposite of sour grapes fable.

“Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.”
― Winston Churchill

“Those who never succeed” place the highest value on success. They count it sweetest. Those who succeed never truly appreciate it—it is only those who fail, or who lack something, that can truly appreciate how wonderful it would be if they did succeed. To understand the value of nectar, one must feel “sorest need”. The members of the victorious army are not able to define victory as well as the defeated, dying man who hears from a distance the music of the victors. “Success”—can best be comprehended by someone who “needs” it.

Those who always win never know the true value of winning and those who never win long for the win all the time. We gain perfection through failure.

“Failure is the condiment that gives success its flavor.”
― Truman Capote

Through defeat we try to appreciate the real value of success. Those who are in love they can not understand the value of love but those who have failed in love, know the real meaning of love. Just like saying if you have never lost hope how could you ever find it?

Those who have not succeeded are the ones who crave it the most. To a person who never wins, victory is sweet, but to a person who has always won, they don’t really understand the value of success. For those who overcome the great battle, they can not measure the significance of victory compared to the losers. It is in defeat that we truly learn to appreciate victory.

“Sometimes it takes a good fall to really know where you stand”
― Haley Williams

Victory must take its natural route and cannot be rushed. In other words, it must be fully appreciated through an initial, natural defeat before a more fulfilling victory can be realized. Victory could be realized sooner, but it would be neither sweet, nor appreciated.

“Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.”
― Confucius

The realization of true victory in the midst of defeat is the true success.

“A successful man is one who can lay a firm foundation with the bricks others have thrown at him.” – David Brinkley

For how can one truly understand happiness without the accompaniment of sadness? Or love without hate? Success cannot be realized without at first knowing the desperation that comes along with losing.

“I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life and that is why I succeed.” -Michael Jordan

Success is the ultimate triumph and is sweetest to those who desperately desire it but have never obtained it. Success is sweetest to them than to the people who already have power and success. Some people work so hard and struggle to reach a goal, but somehow even when triumph is at their fingertips, it still remains out of their grasp. Perhaps in the absence of triumph, success does become an obsession. The fortunate ones who already have success, on the other hand, do not seem to appreciate it as much. To them success is like an everyday common occurrence.

It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed.”
― Theodore Roosevelt

The feeling of being ‘so near and yet so far’, agonizingly brings home the point that it is in defeat that we truly learn to appreciate victory – so much so, that the more the defeats, the sweeter the success.

“Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.”
― Winston Churchill

It is true that the defeated can feel both victory and defeat, while the victorious can only feel the win, then we are stuck with the “grass is always greener…” clause. If done with respect, only then can the winners actually be victorious. Therefore the onus is upon the victorious to rise above the win.

Some people define success by virtue of positions that they acquire and assume in life. But it is not only just about success, but about want and desire, too. As Albert Einstein said:

Try not to become a man of success. Rather become a man of value.

Its All About The Game

Daily Prompt: The Perfect Game
You’re set to play poker (or Scrabble or something else . . .) with a group of four. Write a story set during this game. Or, describe the ideal match: the players, the relationships — and the hidden rivalries.
When I read today’s daily prompt, It instantly reminded me of the game of Ludo I played with my two best friends back in February. If any of you don’t know what Ludo is; it is a type of board game which is played by four people maximum and two minimum, in which the players race their token from start to the finish line according to dice rolls, during which you kill each other’s token by sending them back to the starting line where one can only start again when the dice rolls 6.

Any one who has ever played Ludo knows that it can get frustrating for the one who is losing while a celebration for the one who is winning and interesting for anyone who is watching the game being played.
So my story goes something like this:
My two best friends ‘S’ and ‘H’ came to my house one day, we were getting bored so we decided to play Ludo. As usual when friends play anything their is ‘A Bet’ involved. Our bet was, for whoever will lose will bring a chocolate cake on their next visit.

We started the game, with my friend ‘H’ taking the Blue token, me as Red and my friend ‘S’ as Green. One of the rules is “Kill Or Get Killed” , you have to kill each other tokens and send them home which will slow them down as they will have to start again by rolling 6 number on the dice. They are usually 4 tokens for each player, whoever takes all of their four tokens to the finish line first wins.

Me and my friend ‘H’ were very brutal in killing each other’s tokens, Specially my friend ‘S’ tokens as when she would ALMOST reach the finish line, we would kill her before she had a chance to cross it. For a while this kept happening, we were killing ‘S’ constantly and then she started whining with the emotional black mailing that “How could you guys do this to your own friend. Have some mercy. I hate you guys” . Oh man, how much ‘H’ and I enjoyed ‘S’ whining. If thats called being evil then I’m guilty as charged !

My friend ‘H’ won with all four of her tokens crossing the finish line first so she was out of the danger of bringing us the chocolate cake. Now the danger loomed on me and ‘S’. Who is going to lose and bring the ever delicious chocolate cake, was the question on all of our minds.
There came a point where both of us had only two tokens left. Two reds and two greens, as you can see in the photograph.Image

Now the game was in full motion. Both of us were focused, ‘S’ still blackmailing me not to kill her anymore and me not heeding to her pleadings. After all a chocolate cake was on the line !

Then came the most crucial moment in the history of Ludo games, the most nail biting moment ever, a moment which could easily make a spectator bite their whole finger off in anticipation. We both ended up on the last block before the finish line somehow.
Thanks to my friend ‘H’, she captured every moment which led to the epic finale. Here’s that moment where me and S were stuck on the very last block.

Now whoever got the dice to roll ‘1’ first was going to win. My heart was beating furiously and I could hear its thumping ‘Dum Dum’ in my ears. For about 5 minutes we kept rolling the dice turn by turn but 1 refused to come !
Then I rolled the dice and there it was………!!!!!!! That magical number 1!!! 

Wooohooooo….!!! I won !!! (Okay not really won but didn’t lose either, so that is a victory on its own, right?! )
The look on ‘S’ face was priceless when she realized she was the one to bring chocolate cake for us to devour. *Epic*

This glorious event took place on February 2013, now its November 2013, Ten months have passed but we are still waiting for that chocolate cake….to this day…but that cake…hasn’t come yet… *silently cries from the inside*