Weekly Photo Challenge: Gathering
You have to accept the love you get, not more not less. You have to understand that people give you love they are capable of. You can’t expect more from them.
Not only To keep yourself from getting hurt but to be fair to them too. They give what they are capable of, take it with open arms and appreciate it. Path to expectation, especially love, is a destructive road. You only end up hurting yourself while most of the time the other person is oblivious to it. You have to understand people love the way they can, the only ways they know they can. The day you learn to accept and be happy with whatever amount of love you get, is the day you will be freed.
I’m not saying to settle for less than you think you deserve, Not at all. Never settle for less,especially when it comes to love. All I’m saying is life will be a tad bit easier if you accept whatever amount of love people give you in return to yours. At least they are giving you something. At least they are trying, It’s something. Something is better than nothing. Especially when it comes to love.
Love is the exception to everything, all the rules, all the philosophies, all the rights, all the wrongs. Love is…whatever you make of it.
I am so in love with your super cool pictures. Your messages strike the chord in my heart. Thank you for making me feel home every time I read your blog Zee 🙂
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This is so very sweet of you Himali, It makes me so happy to see you here. Thanks a lot for your lovely words of appreciation! Much love to you ❤ 🙂
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Zee ❤ this was so beautiful to read. Thank you for articulating this; I needed to read this because I'm facing similar struggles of placing unrealistic expectations on loved-ones… and taking it personally when these aren't reached, as if they are an indicator of my self-worth. I once heard a quote that resonated has since resonated with me. It went something along the lines of–
do not underestimate the love you receive, or overestimate the love you give.
Very profound. It took a whole new meaning reading this ❤
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Hi Ramisa, The quote you shared is an eye opener. certainly puts your idea of love in perspective. Thank you so much for reading my thoughts and I’m so glad that you were able to relate with it and it helped you somehow. I think it’s human nature to place expectations but as long as we don’t let it govern us, don’t be too hard on yourself.
Cheers to a new year with acceptance and understanding! Lots of love to you ❤
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Zee! I’ve been away for a while, but I checked in today and read this post.. What you’ve said about love is so true.. It’s difficult, because one is always warring with the ideal of undermining one’s self – minimizing one’s self-worth so to speak- in the pursuit of this emotion. But i agree that people give love according to their capacity to love. There is no yardstick to measure it. Just accept it and thrive on it. 🙂
Have a wonderful new year!
xx, M
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Hi Megha, How have you been? Hope life’s been treating you well! 🙂
Thank you so much for paying a visit to my side of the blogging world, so glad to hear from you. Thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts with me, love is after all, whatever you make of it! ❤
Happy new year to you too, Lots of love and big warm fuzzy hugs ❤
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I’ve been good, Zee! Been very busy with things in general and unfortunately have not been able to take out any time to my blog *shamefaced*
But you know I love reading your blog! What you say about love is so true..
Well, I hope to be back soon in all my former glory 😉 That’s one of my new year resolutions *fingers crossed*
xx, m
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Hi Megha. Just came across your comment on my blog. And figured it’s been a while I’ve seen you around. Hope you are well. Much love 💗
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Hi Zee, lovely hearing from you.. Yes. It’s been ages since I’ve written.. Been terribly busy with a couple of other things.. But hold on! I’m def going to get back to my writing soon..
Hope you are well too! <3<3
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I’ll be looking forward to your return and seeing you around in blogging world. And yes I’m alright as well 🙂
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🙂 For sure..
xx, M
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I think you are one awesome chick Zee… you are worthy of love! I’m glad you are accepting of it too! 🙂
Happy New Year Sweets!!!!! ❤
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Thanks a bunch Courtney ! I’m really touched by your kindness. I appreciate it so much ❤
Happy new year to you as well, wish you happy days ahead ❤
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“The day you learn to accept and be happy with whatever amount of love you get, is the day you will be freed”
i am at loss of words, every line of this is a quote in itself, i learn so much from you…
wishing you a wonderful 2016
lots of love and prayers for you Zee, jeeti raho 🙂
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Oooh Akhiz you are too kind man. Thank you so much, I’m always humbled by your generous praise. You are such a great writer yourself 🙂 ❤
I hope you have an amazing year ahead 🙂
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So cute!
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Thanks a lot 🙂
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Beautiful post Zee. I have pinned it on my Pinterest board. Wishing you a great Christmas and super year ahead. Look forward to reading more in the new year.
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Ooh Lita you are the best, Thank you SO much. It brings me immense joy to see your comments pop in my notifications!!
Cheers to an incredible new year ❤
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adorable kittens. those who can’t shower love on them are blind. 🙂
anyway, love will always be a mystery to many. we should gladly take what it’s freely given. to demand more leads to disappointment. at the same time, i remember what thomas merton once said, “love can be kept only by being given away.”
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Oh that is so beautifully said Plaridel. Loved the quote you shared. I do feel that when I started to stop expecting ‘more’ love from people and just gave away without expecting ‘more’ in return, I did started to feel more in comfort and being happy with myself. so it must be true! 🙂
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Those kittens are awesome!
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Thanks Mr. Professor. 🙂
How have you been? How’s the Christmas prep going? 🙂
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This is so true, Zee. Sometimes it’s not always easy to accept as in when a parent isn’t capable of showing the love they feel as much as they should. But do have accept that that is all that they may be capable of and find the love we need elsewhere. Love and hugs, 🙂 ❤
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That is wonderfully put Natalie, Thanks for reading and leaving your lovely thoughts with me. Much appreciated 🙂
Have a happy week ahead ❤
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🙂 ❤
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What beautiful thoughts to share about love – it should be unconditional and obviously something that we cannot measure. That said, don’t settle. You are worth every bit that you get and more 🙂
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I totally agree Prajkata. Thanks for reading and sharing your wonderful thoughts with me ! 🙂
I hope you have a great week ahead ❤
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Acceptance is soo important ..your last line hit home
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Yes it is. And it includes acceptance of one’s own-self as well. 🙂
Thanks a lot for reading Izza 🙂
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Great post, I shoulld add, heeeeeeeey! You have gone out of the bloggers world, nice to read you little devil. And congratulations on the aword.
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Heyyyyyyy back! Thank you Charly, It’s always a joy to have your crazy ass around here! How have you been?
Missed you loads ❤ 🙂
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Miss you too little devil
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I know 😀
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Well believe it or not, I actually missed you too.
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Oh I believe it, COMPLETELY AND TRULY ! I’m worth missing, thank 😀 😀
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The question is, how much are you worth missing
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Infinitely I’d say… ^_^
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So you wanna be a Knight in the shinning armor? That ain’t gonna happen…because A) you don’t know how to ride a horse B) or know anything about chivalry C) or know fencing D) or have good looks.
None of that above. Sorry to shatter your dreams bro but someone had to do it…
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A) Actualy I rode horses since the age of 6 up to I went to the U.S that was at the age of 13. B)Chivalry I probably know much better than most guys out there except I won´t show it in the blog and specially to you and C) that was too stupid to answer and D) Quite a lot of woem find me attractive and you seem or probably are a shallow person, looks are not everything.
You want me to keep on going and really destroy your little rant?
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SMiLes.. my friend Zee.. the greaTest
Lovers are those who keep
giving no matter
if the land
or water
they land
or water
on is
well of
Love or
desert
of
fear
and
hate..
There is an Invisible Sun
my friend.. that lives inside
and this Sun Loves the
God that
is inside..
outside..
so above..
so below and
all around.. and when
one Loves this Sun inside..
outside.. above and so below
all around is Love my friend and
sure there are brighter and darker
Suns around us.. but what we give
in Terms of Love of Light and Truth
of Wisdom
Measures
the Sun of
We holding hands
with the God of all
and all God’s children
either fully awake in Truth and Light
or still asleep in darker ways of
Fear
and
hate..
Love
knows
no fear..
and feels
no hate.. now..
So i Love you
friend.. and may fearless
Love bring you greater Light
as Lantern of Peace and Love..
making a way
in the
darkest
places of
the
other
way.. BriGht!
my friend..:)!
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Oh that is wonderfully put and a beautiful message, Thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts with me. I appreciate it very much Fred.
Hope you are having great holidays. Have a happy Christmas! 🙂
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Smiles my friend.. Happy nows and best new wishes to you always now.. My friend.. Zee..:)
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Thanks a bunch Fred. Wish the very same for you 🙂
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🙂
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“The day you learn to accept and be happy with whatever amount of love you get, is the day you will be freed.” That is an amazing insight, Zee! It is what love is about: giving from the heart without expecting anything in return. But thankful and appreciative for everthing it does get. We all are different and we all share our love differently. That does not mean that one loves less or more than another one. Wonderful inputs, Zee!
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Thank you so much Erika for your wonderful comment. As I said, Love is..whatever you make of it. You always understand the sentiments behind my words and always add such beautiful insights to it. I really appreciate it. 🙂
Much Love to you ❤
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You have an amazingly inspiring way of writing, Zee! That is one thing I love so much about your posts and of course the message you share! You are amazing 😘
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Oh that is so kind of you, I feel the exact same way about your inspiring writing Erika ❤
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Kindred spirits …. 💖
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Awww, Zee! Another bittersweet post from you and I love it. It is so touching. It is true that each of us are capable of giving only love that we can give. Sometimes trust might get in the way of us giving love, or perhaps fear of what would happen if we choose to love someone, be it a friend, lover or someone we just met.
Love is often precious. Sacred. And something that is easily lost. So perhaps we really should make the most of it and be sure to enjoy it when it comes our way. Hope you are well and love you lots 🙂 ❤
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You said it so well Mabel. I do think that a lot of time why we hold back in giving love is because we are afraid- We are afraid of how the other person might perceive it, we are afraid if we are putting our energies in the right place, if it will be worth it in the end. There is no right or wrong answer in this case. One just has to take a leap of faith and that’s what scares us.
Also everybody has a different way of showing love and we just have to accept that- it’s only fair to both you and the person 🙂
Thank you for sharing your thoughts with me, Love you loads ❤
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“if it will be worth it in the end.” Such an apt way to sum it up. But yes. Nothing is perfect in this world, and there is no perfect timing. In fact, I don’t think we are truly ready for anything despite how prepared we may be.
Love certainly comes in different shapes and forms. Yes, let’s all try and embrace love for what it is, and embrace each person around us for what they give ❤
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“we are never truly ready for anything despite how prepared we may be.” That is a very wise thing to say Mabel. One or another we will always have to take a leap of faith, nothing is ever certain.
*Embracing you in big warm fuzzy hug with lots of love* 😀
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So true. We have to leap to move forwards. Better to leap with our eyes closed than not leap at all and get stuck where we are 🙂
Thanks for rescuing the comment. It has been happening a lot to me lately, I don’t know why. Thanks for the love ❤
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Haha, no worries, Zee to the rescue- Always ❤ 😀
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I am not sure if you got my reply to your reply. Having trouble posting xoxo
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Oh I got it Mabel, i don’t know why but it ended up in Spam for no reason 😮
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Love these lines: “I’m not saying to settle for less than you think you deserve, Not at all. Never settle for less,especially when it comes to love. All I’m saying is life will be a tad bit easier if you accept whatever amount of love people give you in return to yours.”
I’ll remember that as a resolution in 2016 🙂
Please check out my story, Zee, it would mean the world to me https://saadiapeerzada.wordpress.com/2015/12/19/room/
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That’s so sweet of you, Thanks for reading and your appreciation Saadia ❤
And yes!! absolutely, I will give it a read! 🙂 ❤
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🙂 ❤
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I do agree, people love and give what they can! nice post!
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Thank you very much Lynz 🙂 🙂
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Very nice thoughts
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And I appreciate you reading them Lynz 🙂
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🙂 xxx
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That growling kitty on the extreme left is you 😛 and the one next to it is me 😝🙌🙌🙌
Haha
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Hahaha, So I’m the violent one? Fair enough! 😀
But you are not so innocent yourself. just sayin’ 😀
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Yeppp!! You are the violent one!! 😝
I never said I am innocent…i am just the quiet one 😛
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Yeah yeah quiet only until someone really gets to know you… 😛
I’m not violent and I’m just…one misunderstood soul ! 😦 😀
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😝😝😝 thank god u understand me 😆😘
Lol…you are not misunderstood okay?
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Reblogged this on The Insight of a young soul and commented:
Something I’ve been wanting to write about since a long time.My friend Zee has aptly written this post. ❤
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Jesss!! ❤ Thanks a ton!! ❤
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🙂 Zee
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First,those kittens are adorable ❤ and I absolutely love listening to the songs you post.I get to explore different genres. If I could count each time,how many people have drifted apart just because one expected too much i would have measured the depth of the ocean. But we are only human,and it is a human tendency to expect things from people we love.I think it's okay to expect according to how much the other person is capable of giving. But when we go beyond that,and expect a little too much we get disappointed if it is't fulfilled.
I love your choice of words in this post(Tumne dil ki baat keh di :D)
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Hehe, Aren’t they ??!! Thanks ❤
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Omg I don’t know how I missed half of your comment, only first line of your comment was showing in my notification bar, Thanks God I checked the comments again! Thank you so much Jess, I love introducing people to new music- I’m so glad you enjoy the music I share. brings me so much joy! ^_^
And you are so right, Expectations and disappointments are all pat of being human. It’s not easy to avoid them. But we can all learn from experience, now can’t we? 🙂
(Or dil ko dil say rah hoti hay, is liay menay tumharay dil ki baat keh de 😉 ❤ 😀 )
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Wah wah kya baat hai😘
Hope you’re doing well Zee.
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“You have to understand that people give you love they are capable of. You can’t expect more from them.” Very wise words, Zee. Each person burns with a different radiance. This should be celebrated.
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Thanks, That’s so true Rob. Our differences should be celebrated, rather than labeled as weird. 🙂
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You know, lucky are the people who are actually able to accept the love people give them. Some people like me can’t even accept what is presented to them. They don’t think themselves capable of this love that other people give. I don’t know I’m weird or what. Love this cute photo.
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That doesn’t make you weird dear Lala. It just makes you Human. I can understand all of us struggle with this phenomenon of love one way or the other, have different ways to deal with it. However, you should, in no way, think that you are not worthy or capable of the love that comes your way- You absolutely are. ❤
You have a beautiful soul ❤
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Awe, love the pic:) Also, I’m really loving the song!! 😉
I understand what you are saying. I know we may love someone with an intense fire that burns day and night…. but they their love is very subdued and calm. It doesn’t mean they aren’t loving you with everything they have.
Everyone loves differently. However, always make sure the love your getting in return is what you feel to be “love” if that makes sense.
go where you’re celebrated not just tolerated 🙂 ❤ ❤ ❤
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Ooh that was very wise of you Carisa “go where you’re celebrated not just tolerated” nobody Could have said it better than this! 🙂
But you know in the world we are living today, which can be so fake, we can’t really tell if people do genuinely appreciate your presence in their lives or are they just merely tolerating you. Sad reality, isn’t it?
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts with me Carisa, I’m glad you liked the song too! ❤
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It is a very sad reality. When it comes to friends I know quality is the key not quantity. I can’t imagine anyone not loving you genuinely. Your heart glows across the oceans. You are loved all the way in little ole Oklahoma in the US 😉 ❤️
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Again THANK YOU Carisa ❤ All I can do is to thank you in return for your endless love and extended kindness towards me. I'm so touched. Really. ❤ *big bear hug* ❤
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Yes, very true. I think people have a lot of expectations from other people in general and people are often disappointing, especially if you expect too much from them.
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Exactly, it can hurt even more especially if you are very sensitive person so I figured this is the only way to keep oneself from being disappointed- accepting love: less or more. 🙂
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A good way to look at it.
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That is the cutest picture! As for the rest, yes! and no 🙂
I agree, often people are only capable of giving so much love for whatever reason. You can be hurt if you expect more. And it can be a bit unfair to expect more than they are capable of giving.
But then there is the part of me that is the Romantic. The part that wants to believe even when deep down I know it’s impossible. yes, the something can be better than nothing, but sometimes that something seems like one sip of water when we are dying of thirst. Sigh…. As I said, I’m a bit of a Romantic.
Actually, I think you stated it quite well! If we get any love, we need to be happy, and yet we should never settle for less than we deserve. Yes, to both parts of the equation. And you deserve a lot 🙂
I hope you are doing well Zee. It’s great to see you back here blogging again! And thanks for stopping by my (virtual) place!
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I like the way you put it; “one sip of water when we are dying of thirst.” Oh I can totally understand what you mean Trent. For a romantic soul like you and me- who might not seem to be so, it’s the hardest to suppress the desire for “more”. But it doesn’t mean that we can’t do it, we can tame our hearts and just learn to accept whatever comes our way. Both less and more. It’s the only way we can keep ourselves from getting hurt, as you know sensitivity can prove to be a cruse sometimes as well 🙂
And Yes I’m doing much better Trent, Thanks ! It was a pleasure to drop by your virtual place, looking forward to reading more! ❤
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